As I told you earlier, every woman is different, and that’s also true for oral sex. Every woman will react differently to different kind of stimulation. A good lover is one that knows how to adjust.

The most sensitive spot that you can focus on with oral sex is the clitoris. The clitoris is at the very top on the vulva, under its hood. Obviously, I don’t have a picture to show you, but there is a very good website www.3dvulva.com where you can see 3d diagrams of the female sexual anatomy, this is very helpful. By the way, you can also see the g-spot on that website, but they call it the prostate gland. You will notice also that the clitoris is not only the small part that we see. It has long ”roots” that goes down each side of the vulva. That’s why the whole area of the vulva can be really sensitive to oral sex. The level of sensitivity and also the sensitive spots can change depending on your partner’s arousal level. So one spot may not be sensitive at all at first, and be very sensitive later. We are never done exploring our partner!!

A general advice is not to go for the clitoris right away. Women are not like us, they will generally appreciate a little preparation. So you should start by kissing and licking her inner thighs, and then move closer to the vulva by kissing and licking each sides of it. Try to take your time, paste yourself with your partner’s reaction and try to enjoy the process yourself too. It’s also a good idea to kiss and lick the whole area of the vulva before focusing on the clitoris. You want to give her time for her arousal to build up. We will talk about the different arousal stages a bit later.

Here are basic moves you can try, and you can then adjust to what your partner likes. You can start by doing circles around the base of the clitoris, and smaller circles around the tip of the clitoris. You can also do tongue flicks, slowly, quickly, side to side or up and down. One important advice, when you find a type of stimulation that your partner really responds too in that moment, stick with it. It’s not a good idea to constantly change the type of stimulation. When she is really aroused and she really responds, try to keep the same movement and the same speed. And forget the alphabet, that’s just a myth! When it comes to speed, usually slower is better until a woman is closer and closer to orgasm. She may prefer faster stimulation as she gets closer to orgasm.

Again, the best teacher, the best guide you can have is your partner herself. It comes down to ask for directions and be able to openly talk about sex with her.

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